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    Get on the Mat
    Darren Gold
    • 1 day ago
    • 3 min

    Get on the Mat

    Now is not a time for frenetic activity or anxious overreaction. Instead, it is an opportunity to hold your center. To stay in the swirl....
    A Conversation of a Lifetime
    Darren Gold
    • Aug 1
    • 2 min

    A Conversation of a Lifetime

    You never know when the particular experience you’re having will be your last. The only thing you can be certain of is that there will be...
    Guided Drift
    Darren Gold
    • Jul 25
    • 2 min

    Guided Drift

    As you trace back the steps in the lives of the people you admire, you will likely see an unmistakable pattern shared by all – the...
    The Story of Ferdinand
    Darren Gold
    • Jul 18
    • 3 min

    The Story of Ferdinand

    Whenever someone is having a baby at my company, we each pick out a favorite children’s book and send it to them. It’s a wonderful...
    The Impact of 1,000 True Fans
    Darren Gold
    • Jul 11
    • 3 min

    The Impact of 1,000 True Fans

    You don’t need to reach millions of people to change the world. If you could touch the lives of a thousand people, your impact would be...
    The Real Declaration of Independence
    Darren Gold
    • Jul 4
    • 3 min

    The Real Declaration of Independence

    Real freedom can only occur when our leaders are courageous and skilled enough to forego the seduction of scapegoating and where everyday...
    What Do We Do?
    Darren Gold
    • Jun 27
    • 4 min

    What Do We Do?

    Today in the aftermath of senseless mass shootings and the overturning of Roe v. Wade, we find ourselves as a nation increasingly...
    The Power of the Ultimatum
    Darren Gold
    • Jun 20
    • 4 min

    The Power of the Ultimatum

    The ultimatum should be reserved for situations in which you are completely committed to the action you are threatening and where the...
    A Moment of Pride
    Darren Gold
    • Jun 6
    • 2 min

    A Moment of Pride

    There may be nothing more fundamental than the pride one is entitled to feel for being exactly who they are. I wrote last week about my...
    Reflections on Action
    Darren Gold
    • May 30
    • 5 min

    Reflections on Action

    IF YOU WANT LOVE, BE LOVE. IF YOU WANT PEACE, BE PEACE. – Coldplay Yesterday, we remembered the members of our armed forces who gave...
    The Oak and the Reed
    Darren Gold
    • May 23
    • 2 min

    The Oak and the Reed

    It is the rare leader who is capable of sustaining the strength and conviction of the oak while, at the same time, summoning the ability...
    The Source of Action
    Darren Gold
    • May 9
    • 3 min

    The Source of Action

    It is the rare person who lives a life of action. What is it then that lies beneath the almost universal aversion to action? In one word,...
    Lateral Thinking
    Darren Gold
    • May 2
    • 2 min

    Lateral Thinking

    The problems and opportunities we face require much more than conventional thinking. They demand that we expose ourselves to a wide range...
    Powerful Questions
    Darren Gold
    • Apr 25
    • 3 min

    Powerful Questions

    What if we were more intentional about the questions we ask? What if instead of the standard questions, we asked ones that are designed...
    Random Acts of Kindness
    Darren Gold
    • Apr 11
    • 3 min

    Random Acts of Kindness

    The path to creating a world of love and kindness will likely be paved by the smallest of steps multiplied by the greatest number of...
    The Dangers of Reductionism
    Darren Gold
    • Apr 4
    • 4 min

    The Dangers of Reductionism

    When we engage in reductionistic thinking, we do violence to the complexity inherent in each of us. Imagine for a moment that our brains...
    The Return of Dignity
    Darren Gold
    • Mar 28
    • 3 min

    The Return of Dignity

    In its simple yet profound stillness, dignity moves people to action. And it is the return of dignity that leaves me hopeful for the...
    Important Truths
    Darren Gold
    • Mar 20
    • 4 min

    Important Truths

    The world we all want is only possible if we have first taken complete responsibility for ourselves. What important truth do very few...
    No More War
    Darren Gold
    • Mar 7
    • 3 min

    No More War

    How can a world expect peace when each of us has yet to lay down the weapons inside our own minds and hearts? It has been over a week...
    A Guide for Leading in Anxious Times
    Darren Gold
    • Feb 28
    • 5 min

    A Guide for Leading in Anxious Times

    Your primary job as a leader – in your family, community, or career – is to lower anxiety. Period. Your primary job as a leader – in your...
    Black Licorice Cultures
    Darren Gold
    • Feb 14
    • 3 min

    Black Licorice Cultures

    Great cultures are ones that are distinctive, meaning they should be right for certain employees and not for others. In a week dominated...
    Emotions are Data
    Darren Gold
    • Feb 7
    • 3 min

    Emotions are Data

    Leaders who live and lead with love and performance are those who have cultivated the capacity to attain states of emotional self-mastery...
    Love and Performance: The Steve Jobs Counterfactual
    Darren Gold
    • Jan 31
    • 3 min

    Love and Performance: The Steve Jobs Counterfactual

    Why aren’t there more Federers and Nadellas? Because it’s hard work leading with virtue and character. This past Saturday, three...
    Who Is Your Hero?
    Darren Gold
    • Jan 24
    • 3 min

    Who Is Your Hero?

    If you grew up in the 1970s and 1980s as I did, you likely did so on a steady diet of relatively limited television content. There was no...
    To Lead Is to Inspire
    Darren Gold
    • Jan 17
    • 3 min

    To Lead Is to Inspire

    In a world that is overwhelmed and exhausted, Dr. King’s lesson is as relevant today as it was over fifty years ago. To inspire ourselves...
    The Case for Purposelessness
    Darren Gold
    • Jan 10
    • 2 min

    The Case for Purposelessness

    The new year represents an opportunity to discover an atelic activity – one with no aim other than the joy of the activity itself. I love...
    We Are All Makers
    Darren Gold
    • Jan 3
    • 3 min

    We Are All Makers

    Over the holidays, my family and I had the chance to see the Tony-winning adaptation of A Christmas Carol in San Francisco's Golden Gate...
    Personal OKRs
    Darren Gold
    • Dec 20, 2021
    • 3 min

    Personal OKRs

    The end of the year presents each of us with a fundamental choice. Will you let life happen to you? Or will you lean in to help shape...
    The Third Most Important Day of Your Life
    Darren Gold
    • Dec 13, 2021
    • 3 min

    The Third Most Important Day of Your Life

    It is said that the two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why. The saying speaks to the...
    Fire Yourself
    Darren Gold
    • Dec 6, 2021
    • 3 min

    Fire Yourself

    At key strategic inflection points, “firing yourself” is essential. It allows you to step outside the constraints of your existing...
    Not Yet
    Darren Gold
    • Nov 29, 2021
    • 2 min

    Not Yet

    A simple word or turn of phrase can transform what’s possible. One of my favorite Thanksgiving traditions is my morning walk with my now...
    A Stoic Guide to Thanksgiving
    Darren Gold
    • Nov 22, 2021
    • 3 min

    A Stoic Guide to Thanksgiving

    Regular readers of this weekly blog are undoubtedly familiar with my interest in Stoicism. From time to time, I will explicitly write...
    I’m the Only Person Who Can Offend Me
    Darren Gold
    • Nov 15, 2021
    • 2 min

    I’m the Only Person Who Can Offend Me

    I am in control of the meaning I give to the words someone utters, and my emotional response is the consequence of that meaning I choose,...
    Be Nice and Be Kind
    Darren Gold
    • Nov 8, 2021
    • 3 min

    Be Nice and Be Kind

    If you're looking for what you can do to make a difference, there may be no better act than to be kind. A few weeks ago, Northern...
    Change is Local
    Darren Gold
    • Nov 1, 2021
    • 3 min

    Change is Local

    All great leaders have realized that real change begins, and often is sustained, by taking responsibility for altering the conditions...
    A Life Worth Remembering
    Darren Gold
    • Oct 25, 2021
    • 2 min

    A Life Worth Remembering

    What does it mean to live the good life? Living your life consistent with what it is that you want to be remembered for may be the best...
    A Culture Test
    Darren Gold
    • Oct 18, 2021
    • 4 min

    A Culture Test

    Exceptional cultures are not right for everyone. And they remain exceptional to the degree that its leaders are willing to make difficult...
    A Nobel Prize for Courage
    Darren Gold
    • Oct 11, 2021
    • 3 min

    A Nobel Prize for Courage

    Today, the world needs courage at a time when it seems to be in short supply. This year's Nobel Peace Prize was awarded to two...
    A Failure of Vision
    Darren Gold
    • Oct 4, 2021
    • 4 min

    A Failure of Vision

    The leadership failures over the last three decades have largely been failures of vision. In every case, leaders missed the opportunity...
    Life Lessons from Ted Lasso
    Darren Gold
    • Sep 27, 2021
    • 4 min

    Life Lessons from Ted Lasso

    Understanding your past gives you access to the programming that runs you. With access, you can rewrite the code of your underlying...
    Moments of Knowing
    Darren Gold
    • Sep 20, 2021
    • 4 min

    Moments of Knowing

    There are moments in time during which one experiences a deep sense of certainty that cannot be logically defended but nonetheless is...
    On Doing and Being
    Darren Gold
    • Sep 13, 2021
    • 3 min

    On Doing and Being

    We need both doing and being in our lives. We become fully alive when we are powerfully generative (i.e., doing) and deeply present...
    The Value of Constraints
    Darren Gold
    • Sep 6, 2021
    • 3 min

    The Value of Constraints

    We’re overwhelmed and exhausted. This is the almost universal complaint I hear from the business leaders I work with. There are, of...
    On Friendship
    Darren Gold
    • Aug 30, 2021
    • 3 min

    On Friendship

    Deep friendships have the unmistakable quality of being immutable. At the same time, they demand to be treated as fragile, never to be...
    The Proximity of Extraordinary Performance
    Darren Gold
    • Aug 23, 2021
    • 3 min

    The Proximity of Extraordinary Performance

    We don’t have to look far for examples of people who have achieved extraordinary things. It is the “ordinary” person, often right in...
    The Magic of Gratitude
    Darren Gold
    • Aug 16, 2021
    • 3 min

    The Magic of Gratitude

    Last week was a bit of a dream come true for me. I had a chance to see the first live appearance (since the start of the pandemic) of my...
    The Fallacy of Limits
    Darren Gold
    • Aug 9, 2021
    • 3 min

    The Fallacy of Limits

    If nothing else, these Olympics were yet another reminder that records are meant to be broken. That the limits these records seem to...
    Setback Stories
    Darren Gold
    • Aug 2, 2021
    • 4 min

    Setback Stories

    Life is shaped not so much by the incredible accomplishments you achieve. Nor is it determined by the disappointments and failures you...
    The Case for Congruent Leadership
    Darren Gold
    • Jul 26, 2021
    • 3 min

    The Case for Congruent Leadership

    Extraordinary leaders regularly ask one very powerful question, “What am I doing or not doing that is inconsistent with the very things...
    On Sickness
    Darren Gold
    • Jul 19, 2021
    • 2 min

    On Sickness

    As I write this, I’m not feeling physically great. I’ve been under the weather for the better part of a week. I considered skipping this...
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